The overall context of this particular message is not universally accepted because people tend to align with the cliché notion of “nobody is better than anybody”. Well, I would agree to an extent because, we all are unique in all our different ways and there’s always a strength in one, found as weakness in another.
However, you CANNOT deny the obvious FACT. You’ve heard and read and seen severally, the unfairness of life, display itself in the most unexpected of ways. While some are constantly prepared for the turn of events, others are completely caught unawares. The path to awareness is what I’m here show you incase you haven’t realised it yet.
“NOT everyone has equal privileges” I can say that again if you allow me —“NOT everyone has equal privileges”. This is not a hate speech neither am I trying to make assumptions that are uncalled for. But it is the reality and even though we all have the same opportunities of the whole 24hours in a day, not everyone is able to account for the time spent in fulfilment of a daily task but others will and even outline results for EVERY minute spent.
Many are called but few are chosen.
Now, the above is a confirmation from the Holy Bible in Matthew 22:14. And, this confirmation has everything to do with the degree of one’s mindset towards life in general, preparedness towards unprecedented twists, commitment to acts, salvation from misfortunes and exemption from laws.
It is undeniably unrealistic to bask in the same level of opportunities and fortunes when we all are products of different backgrounds, different ideologies, different religions, different tribes, different races, different nations and this is where sensitivity comes into play—
You have to be aware of your state of affairs and act accordingly. You cannot afford to go above board and expect a saviour when you don’t have one in the first place. That is why you must never act based on the requirements consistently dished out, everyday on social media. Most times, the advices you swallow hook, line and sinker, in respect to your life decisions, come from people who sit all day, in the comfort of their homes and can afford to do irrational things because they have the right support to fall back on if things go awry both home and abroad.
Furthermore, I’d like you to read an excerpt from a Facebook post by Nneka Nwamah, whose opinion on privileges, inspired this article —
I remember a scenario a female married acquaintance of mine knowing my strong advocacy stand was narrating a scenario to me. It was a pitiful scenario and I won’t be able to go into details. She was itching to call that marriage quit in the height of her emotions.In retrospect,her anger was justified. I listened calmly and when she was done expecting me to justify her erratic though right choice.
I told her at this time,”I won’t gladly support you,walking out of this marriage”. She was stunned because she expected otherwise.Her bubbles were bursted and she said but you won’t take half of these things. I advised her and acknowledged her feeback explaining to her plainly that I am privileged. Secondly, I have excellent support system even if I wanted to be plain stupid, I am surrounded by super supportive and very progressive family members. Certain things/debasement women suffer can never be my reality on this earth both in Nigeria and abroad. These are the differences.
I advised her to stoop to conquer and if she is fixed about walking away, then I gave her the 2years exit strategy. My only exception to these rules is in threat to life/physical violence.
I tend to smirk at those who often blow so hot on social media. Worst off,when it comes from privileged folks who twist scenarios to suit their points without considering the actual realities of these victims. I also feel so sorry for people who tend to live/run their lives through the lens/words of many on these space.
In summary, do not determine standards for your intentions and actions based on the life of others or what you think should be, but based on your own reality and your innate abilities to handle the outcomes. Many people have been recorded to have walked through what sunk others, effortlessly. Others enjoy abundance in the midst of scarcity. And many other relatable instances.
Now, this is what many (especially motivational speakers) won’t tell you — Operate within your reality. Explore opportunities and options within your capabilities. No go dey do pass yourself!
©Nympha Chinenye Nzeribe