• 27th May. Children's Day, 2021•
Childhood is a phase which every adult in this dispensation have once experienced. A lot of innocence and emulation have also been associated with that stage and that is the reason you see people today with diverse attributes which mirror the features of their various backgrounds and upbringing. Features ranging from cultural heritages, ideologies, esteem, and general conduct. However, for those who are still malleable in heart, the learning and mastering process is still onboard and that’s a beautiful thing… To have the heart of a child!
Children are a special breed, formed and continually being shaped by the actions within the confines of whatever immediate environment they find themselves. That is why, a child can be seen exuding different characters at different times because of the currently existing influence in their lives. Repeated patterns are seen to be common especially when it is traced to generations before and these patterns, sometimes negative but fortunately prone to possible reformations, are left unreformed leading to an advancement in mediocrity and societally challenging traumas. Truthfully, many adults are expected to heal themselves first from the adverse effects of their upbringings but how do they even do it when they barely recognise the twists in the traditions that they were raised with?
Technology, although with its dual personality, which demands a filtered indulgence, is here and even advancing, to enforce a learning which may help in reforming these adults because the next generation’s mindset is at stake! Parents need to scrutinize the pattern of their own raising and discard the extremes while upholding the good morals that may have been instilled in the process. The benefits of some of these technological tools are set in place as a pointer towards making the right parenting decisions. For instance, connecting via the internet to programs which feature seasoned and professional child psychologists and therapists, networking with fellow parents to also know their ideals in parenting. This is not to disregard the essence of your own worth but to give you an insight, especially, in knowing what happens around your environment.
The rights of a child are grossly important and must be treated as top priority. Children are individuals too and they deserve the best of all they can have. They deserve the best of healthcare, of education, of caregivers and even of family. Having a child is a lot of work for the child’s immediate society. The father, mother and closer relations are obviously not left out in this duty. That is why building positively reformed adults is expedient because that is the only assurance existent for the emergence of an all round, salubrious child and society.
Fostering a healthy relationship with a child is one the simplest things to achieve with the right steps, yet, difficult for some individuals and this is because of the adamance of so many ideologies especially those engineered by religion and tradition which naturally creates a big gulf between a child and his/her parent. It therefore takes awareness to raise a wholesome individual. It takes a ton of learning and unlearning to put certain steps towards achieving a positively standard parenting in place. It takes a lot of realization to heal from the various traumas of one’s upbringing so as to pave a pathway in raising a responsible individual.
Healing is a lot of work and to attain it, there must be a paradigm shift in your mindset and a deliberate consciousness towards NOT making excuses for all the obvious personality tortures you must have undergone in just being someone’s child. Corrections are standard but abuse is real. So, when you discover and make distinct the thin line between correcting an individual and abusing him/her, it would become clearer. May we heal from all the unspoken pains and from all the irrational excuses we give for being raised the way we were raised and may we not because of the underlying wounds, which we may not even realise, abuse our kids in the guise of protection. Amen.
CELEBRATE THE CHILDREN BY HEALING YOUR WORLD FIRST.
©Nympha Chinenye Nzeribe