Sanity Check: Burning Bridges?
Building a band of meaningful network is the most profitable venture in the universe because, growth, as it is known, has proven to happen as a result of a constant connection with the environment. However, a venture may turn our sour on the long run for reasons best known to the situation but if there be a remedy, then why not go all the way? especially when there is no contempt involved. But, in the face of slight and disdain, then, I don’t mind the bridge being burned for rationality to thrive. However, there may be the guilt tripping from different angles with questions like “why burn a bridge when you can’t swim?” So many why(s) but here’s the deal… “even if you can’t swim, there’s a thing called a life guard and it’s only one who is intentional about his life and sanity that can take up the challenge of severing anything that brings annoying memories and diminishing returns to his life by simply activating the push button, away from all negatives.”
Metaphor hinge: If at any point, because of constant association, you are convinced without doubts that you know me well enough, therefore you confidently think I can’t swim thereby, I can’t burn the bridge when it’s filled with inferior regards, Hahaha! Lacuata! I’m sorry… Unless I do not activate the guard. But if I come to the realisation that your involvement with me will cause me a wreak, then be sure, I’m jumping off the boat and dude, there would be a way!
Recently, someone really close to me had a fallout with a man who I presume suffers some sort of personality disorder. Although, I feel an amount of pity for him, knowing that mental conditions are real, I still do not bother to advice anyone (friend or not) to have any business to do with him. Now, this particular man thinks heaven on earth of himself, claims ‘all knowing’ to himself, speaks all perfection about himself yet finds it difficult to censor his attitude to simple human interactions. Sad!.. Business with Mr X (as I choose to refer to him), was filled with a lot of demeaning treatment ranging from all manner of obsessive composures to a clearly irritating manner of engagement to full blown insults on the other party involved. Unfortunately, business had to end and Mr X began to cry foul!, whining about burning bridges.. Hello, what bridges shouldn’t the burned? The fact that your attitude towards this person was filled with obvious disregard? Or that you compromised the unwritten rules of the contract? Or that you chose to act on the grounds of your acclaimed influence and affluence, thereby discarding the idea of respect? Ha!
I am personally of the opinion that whatever poses a threat to your sanity, no matter the ‘gains’ involved, do not worth the waste of resources in time, talent and treasures. Therefore, At every point of your breath, find an avenue to check for bridges connecting nowhere and burn them. There are a billion other ways through every path, to the top and none, absolutely none is indispensable.
Find your peace in saying no to faux connections, by becoming the original director of your custom style and daily negotiations. Although, naturally, to avoid burning bridges in regrets, you should rather provide your proceedings with a prior scrutiny and a blessing from your instincts. That way, who knows?, another bridge may be built, kept at sight, for an easy flight away from what doesn’t serve.