Modeling a Role is an agelong attitude which most times, is unintentionally engaged in as random people suddenly put you on a certain pedestal and most times, you find yourself trying so hard to be in the good books by highlighting just what seems right and fair to all concerned. This consciousness springs from a place of high regard as one in an admirable position. I mean take a look at celebrities for instance or more relatable; pastors, coaches and even teachers.
If you’re assuming the position of a role model in a person’s life or you know that people look up to you by virtue of your importance in your family and the society, you have to be sure that they understand that looking up to you is not ideal but admiring your standard qualities is. Because, by god, you have your devilish flaws which, truth be told, if you unleash, even the sun will go into hiding at mid-day. Part of your role as a model is to discipline your ego to a point where it matters when you’re doing the wrongs things and your “role-modelee” is blindly following suit.
It is important that you do not mount a storey of pressure on your qualities just to appear a little extra. Do not miss out on a sincere opportunity to live your true self in all its expressions all because you want to fulfill an expectation of people who do not even come close to friends and family. Whoever that is interested in admiring you should be ready to accept the showcase of imperfection on your own side of the coin.
Learn to set a boundary between your admirable standards and your undiserable flaws. That will save that person looking up to you a great deal of disappointment. There is no flawless being; this is true because the only thing people see and relate with are the seeming perfect pictures that pose as incomparable and totally off the bounds of imperfections.
We all have people we admire and in so many ways, look up to their next grand act/style but cannot fit into their exact lifestyle nor be able handle their personal crisis and struggles if we find ourselves in same shoes with them. So, while we admire and make subtle wishes to be like them and in their positions of interest, we need to take it easy for it is only he who wears the shoes that knows how well they fit! It would be devastatingly disappointing if you get to realise that your role model has been living a lie but subjecting the realities of his/her public highlights to lies and vanity. In all your feelings towards your favourite celebrities, be neutral, be flexible, be open minded because there is no such thing as perfection. Know this, know peace!
However, it won’t be a bad idea if you conditioned your actions and lifestyle to be that which is admired by the society and consciously endeavour to engage influences that will affect your immediate environment positively. You do not have to be a highly influential personality or a celebrity to make a change. If you are a parent, create the right environment for your children’s creativity to thrive. If you’re an artisan, approach your craft with sincerity and open mindedness because, you never know where the next recommendation will come from. People watch!!! Whoever you are, in whatever field of influence, be in sync with the right standard of engagement and do not fight so hard to be recognised. This is life, you should know that the sun can never be hidden.
This human race is customised and should be lived accordingly. Relate with others with the knowing that they are living their own purposes, mastering their own games, cultivating their personal farms, leading their own lives and not for anyone to be like them but to admire, then proceed to aspire to create a life out of their own lives. To be on the right track and not feel disappointed on the long run as someone looking up to another, know that the person you look up to has a perfect personality he/she wants to fit into as well. It’s a circle that never ends; it goes round and round. While we want one, he/she wants another and another, another!
What are you looking up to in your quest to get better? The Model or The Role?