Forgiveness is an art of self love. Though you do it into others, it is ultimately for your freedom and happiness. Bearing grudges only elongates the pain and anguish. The situation which called for your unforgiving actions may be gross and unforgettable. Forgive anyway. It may be a stab in the back whose scars do not have the intentions of fading away. Forgive anyway. They may be as a result of a betrayal from a family or close friend and totally incapable of being erased. Forgive anyway. It may be a mistake you have made which could have been avoided if you took it one day at a time, obviously. Do not beat yourself up at all. Forgive still.
Forgiveness places your heart above it all, on a platform where peace thrives and harmony spreads. Give it your thoughts. It will be worth it when you do. Peace does not come on a platter. It’s a conditioning of the mind, soul and spirit unto the things that are soul edifying and life sweetening.
I have been at a place of sincere hurt and unpretentious pain and man!, when I say I dwelt deeply in it, I really did. But dwelling in what drowns you will only make it tougher to scale through. It is good to feel the pains because that is the first step to healing but never settle for what you feel at that time. It can get better. With time yes, but you can help yourself fasten the process by making conscious moves towards letting go. Well, I never said forget! Who forgets a highlight in his/her life? Absolutely no one. Although, surprisingly, when you truly let go, the memories gradually fade and automatically become inconsequential when they’re raised or referred to.
You may choose to rely on time which no doubt is a trusted factor in healing wounds and striking a closure. But, who is even sure of the next second? Whatever you have to do to experience total happiness and soul freedom should be done now. Yes! Think about them, absorb the hurt. But let go. Don’t miss that!
©Nympha Chinenye Nzeribe