On the internet this week has been stories upon stories, several lines, nuances and nattering regarding the issue of breadwinning. So many ideas welling up and many disclaimers laid out by people of the female clan.
Well, if the true course of operation as set from the beginning of time is to be adhered to , then you’d see that bread winning is not a case to be in contention with especially as it concerns who will do it. Naturally, a man is the sole provider and this simple act of bearing the cross of the family as the “head” and leading the path for your family to follow should not be a big deal. It is only responsible if men realise this. it is this realisation and the actions that follow that will bless you with the features which are far from that of an infidel or not!😏
I raised the topic of “who wins the bread?”, through a post I made on WhatsApp and a friend of mine, engaged me in a dialogue. In his words, in different quotes below, he said —
“It’s not easy to be a breadwinner. But being the breadwinner is not where the job ends for the man. It’s actually just the beginning.”
“Moving on, the man is the vision bearer. Every successful family MUST have a general family vision. It is the responsibility of the man to figure this out and to figure out the best strategy for getting this achieved in a way that is beneficial to all members of the family.”
“A man’s work is futuristic. A woman’s work in the home is to keep present stable. The man insures the future.”
“So if stepping in to provide food for a few days is what a woman has to do in her home to keep the present stable, she should do it gladly. Especially if she sees and understands the man’s unwavering efforts to insure the future of the family.”
“For instance, if a man makes 25 million Naira, and had to invest it all in a capital project that has huge long term yield, that could change the financial and social level of the family and a woman makes some money that can keep the family stable, I think she should.”
“Marriage is teamwork. Getting into a marriage, simply means that you can no longer think of yourself just as an individual. If you are responsible, in marriage, you think of yourself as a unit of a bigger whole, a player in a team.”
My friend’s words above resonated quite well with me as I made reference to my own parents and the style with which they run their home with so much assistance coming from both sides and their bread being won without a trophy for any party in particular. Yes for me, the idea is to win together, invest and cash out together! With the MAN leading the pack. Infact, the idea of “breadwinning” should be scrapped as it makes the whole act of provision which primarily should be the first obligation of man to his family, a big deal. A man is obligated to provide not just money or materials but the stable and comfortable systems that foster compatibility in the home. Because without compatibility, which is the bedrock of peace, there’d be so much negative interference in the noble act of winning bread.😏
Moving on, while you win bread, remember to win peace, love, kindness and sincerity into your home. Make you for see who go allow you to follow chop the bread, drink water, keep cup!
(loose translation: so that you’d enjoy tanquility within your household.)